Relationship Resolutions

by gloria on January 2, 2020

I hope that 2020 is off to a great start for you, your friends, and your family. The New Year is one of my favorite times of year because it is a time of new beginnings. Whether committing to healthier living or changing a bad habit, January is a great time in our lives for new and fresh starts.

We all live in relationship with one another. What a great time to assess your relationships. If you are married, this is a great time to think about your relationship with your spouse. If you are a parent, consider improving your relationship with your children. Perhaps a relationship with a friend needs some tender loving care.

I hope that these Relationship Resolutions will help you take stock and nurture and enhance all your relationships.

  • Talk to each other
    Check out assumptions. Commit to work on issues that create conflict.
  • Listen to your friends and family
    Listen deeply, honestly, and without judgment.
  • Tell the people whom you love what you need
    It is a myth that we can read the minds of our loved ones.
  • Forgive, forgive, forgive
    Let go of grudges and past hurts. Commit to stop hurting one another.
  • Say thank you and give compliments generously
    Do a favor for someone. Give and receive compliments graciously.
  • Lighten up, laugh, smile
    Don’t take life so seriously. Give grace to yourself and your relationships.
  • Do something special for no reason at all
    Send flowers, a card, pay for lunch, etc.
  • Develop rituals with friends and family
    Be intentional about celebrating rituals together.
  • Respect yourself and all your relationships
    Be kind in your dealings with each other.

Gloria Martin


FALL: A Time of Transition

by gloriam on September 6, 2019

I believe that the beginning of fall is marked by a holiday rather than a date on the calendar because growing up in the South taught me that white shoes were not to be worn after Labor Day. We live in a society that dictates activity cycles beginning in September and ending in May. Are you like the young woman who commented that it is difficult to believe that September is here? Or are you like the father of three teenage girls celebrating the opening of school? Labor Day is a benchmark holiday that finalizes summer and brings us into a new season. Fall is a transition time that is symbolized by the changing of the leaves, cooler morning air, football games, an increase in traffic, and the end of daylight savings time. Whether you have a child entering school for the first time, someone leaving for college, or are simply looking forward to the smell of wood burning in the fire place, Labor Day has passed and Fall is upon us.
Human nature creates dissonance and resistance to change. Seasonal transitions, schedule changes and life’s daily challenges may leave you feeling out of sorts, discombobulated, if you will. Adults and children alike are affected by seasonal transitions. As activities and responsibilities increase we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed with more options of ways to fill our time than hours in the day. Our emotional tanks, just like the gas tanks in our cars, sputter when we do not refuel them.
One way to enjoy life in the midst of change is to acknowledge that transition and change deplete our physical, emotional and spiritual resources. We feel excitement, fear, grief, wonder, overwhelmed, exhaustion, happiness, and more.

Use these tips to help make a smooth transition into this exciting new season:
Take care of the physical self of you and your family
  • Exercise daily
  • Limit TV and computer time
  • Get plenty of sleep
  • Eat a balanced, healthy diet

Take care of the emotional self of you and your family

  • Meditate
  • Read motivational literature
  • Journal
  • Make eye contact with your family members
  • Hug and kiss your children and your spouse as much as possible
  • Give your children and spouse your undivided attention
  • Plan family activities that require relating with one another
Take care of the spiritual self of you and your family
  • Pray
  • Read inspirational literature
  • Attend a church that expresses your beliefs
  • Let Go and Let God.
Remember: “Times of transition can become times of profound inner transformation if you open yourself fully to the experience at hand, difficult as it may be. For in the process, your spirit, your very soul will begin to expand, to stretch forward and ultimately to soar, with utmost grace, into new heights of insight, wisdom, compassion, immense tenderness and gentlest, yet greatest strength.”


The Hats We Wear

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Unlike our ancestors of the early 1900’s, fashion rules of today do not dictate that we wear hats. Occasionally we will notice a group of women from the Red Hat Society having a meal together, or see someone wear a hat on Easter Sunday, or try to find the smiling face of a teenager whose […]

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Talkers and Thinkers

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Do you talk to think, or do you think to talk? People who talk to think are external processors, while people who think to talk are internal processors. I believe that the way we process information greatly affects our interaction with one another. Understanding this dynamic of internal processing and external processing can be beneficial […]

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Rules of Life

December 1, 2017

Last Friday I had the unique opportunity and pleasure to hear Betty Alice Erickson speak at the monthly meeting of the Dallas Association for Marriage & Family Therapy meeting. Betty is Milton Ericson’s daughter, lives in Dallas and has a private practice here. It was so inspiring to hear phrases like “Daddy said” or “Daddy […]

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Stories of the Season

October 28, 2017

We all have our favorite holiday activities. One of mine is watching holiday movies. Though I have seen my favorites so many times I can recite many of the lines by memory, I seem to find a new meaning or laugh each time I watch. Charles Dickens’s character, Ebenezer Scrooge, reminds us that giving gifts […]

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“Ah-Ha” Moments: The Juice of Life

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You have experienced them. Those times when you realize, “I get it,” “oh, that’s it,” “I finally understand.”Ah-ha moments are serendipitous and surprise us when we least expect it. They may come after reading something for the tenth time or when we hear an old concept framed in a new way. Recently, an ah-ha occurred for […]

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How Do I Love You, Let Me Count the Ways

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February–the month of love and valentines. Some of my younger friends think Valentine’s Day was created by Hallmark. Others love the tradition of St. Valentine and a special day to tell someone dear “I love and appreciate you.”  I want to remind you of the importance of affirmation. Early in our marriage, my husband and […]

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Relationship Resolutions

January 9, 2011

I hope that 2011 is off to a great start for you, your friends, and your family. The New Year is one of my favorite times of year because it is a time of new beginnings. Whether committing to healthier living or changing a bad habit, January is a great time in our lives for […]

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